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Latest Dads News | Father Hunger - How Father Absence Impacts Our Youth

Do you have fun with your kids?

One of the most important roles of a father is to have fun with your kids.  You have to show your kids not only the disciplinarian but also the fun loving side of who you are.  Teach your kids that it is ok to enjoy life.  The quality one on one time is priceless to their development.  A childs face lights up when you show interest in spending time in their world.

Some of my best moments are the laughs and fun that I have with my girls.  Wrestling on the floor, having a tickle fest, playing with toys, working on the computer, etc. are all little things that I enjoy doing with my kids.  No matter the activity, that special activity that you enjoy doing with your kids is so vital to their devlopment. 

Speaking of having fun, checkout this video.  It is absolutely hilarious and is a prime example of those special moments you spend with your child that are priceless.

Wedding Dress – $2,000

Wedding Reception – thousands $$$$

Memories of the Father-Daugther dance - priceless

Debra Lafave and the Absent Father in the home

I am not sure if you have heard of the case of Debra Lafave. I was flipping the channels and saw her story. Debra Lafave was a middle school teacher in Tampa, Fl., who had sexual relationship with a 14 year old student. There are multiple issues that Debra Lafave mentions that was a cause of her teenager mentality at the age of 23. She mentions father absence, rape, bi-polar disorder, suicidal attempts, lost of a sibling, etc. as things that happened in her life. I am not here to judge this woman at all. As in many stories within people’s lives, sometimes it is hard to understand because you were not there in the situation. All I know is there were many signs of a troubled past.

Whether or not the facts are as they happened, the truth is there was a problem with males in her life. As with many young women, the relationship with their biological father was absent and it leads into a life of many issues including sexual activity. Debra was obviously reaching out for a male in her life to fulfill her emotional needs. A father plays a crucial role and young girls gain their expectations about boyfriends and husbands from their dad. Often when a dad is lacking, a young woman attempts to fulfill that need through a relationship with a man. This type of emotional trauma often leads to unhealthy relationships.

In this country, we are setting ourselves up for destructive behavior with more than 24 million kids without their biological father each and every day.

Are We Numb to What is Going On Around Us?

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Did you know the average father spends only 23 minutes per day with their kids? 1

Men, our past does not have to equal our future.  Let’s step up to the plate and accept the challenge. Today is the beginning of your new future.

Our kids are crying out everyday and they need us.  Fatherhood has touched every segment of our population and never is it more evident than in music.  The next time you listen to your favorite music on the radio, take a minute and listen to the lyrics.  The pain of fatherhood is all around us.  Just quite all the noise for a moment and listen to what is going on.  Here at RFFDads, we talk about the sheep when he is lost from his mother.  Kids all around us are like lost sheep.  They are looking for the love of their fathers and no one knows what is wrong with them.

I don’t care what type of music you enjoy, take a minute and listen to the message in this song.  This is an incredible message to all fathers.

 

1 Resource Bureau of Labor and Statistics study in 2007

The Myths of Fatherhood

 

I was reading a post on youtube.com about fatherhood and people where slamming Obama for being a man of color in the White House discussing fatherhood. I could not help but to comment on the myths of fatherhood. The National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI) www.fathehood.org is a nationally supported organization to address the problems of fatherhood in this country. They have put together another great marketing piece to discuss this major issue. The myths are that fatherhood is a problem for people of color. Let’s set the record straight.

The Absent Father in the home is a problem that knows no boundaries. The epidemic is impacting every segment of our population and is a major contributor to the crime rate, poverty, teen pregnancy, drug abuse, and illiteracy. The National Fatherhood Initiatives new brochure states the facts:

  • 1 out of 3 children in the US grows up in a home without his or her father. More than 24 million children nationwide.
  • 2 out of 3 children of all African American children (over 7 million total) grow up in a father-absent home.
  • The fastest growing group of father-absent families exists among white families; more than 15 million white children live apart from their biological fathers.
  • Over 4 million children of Hispanic origin are growing up in homes without their biological fathers.

     

As you can see from the data, this issue knows no boundaries and is a major issue across this country. It is time we stop pointing the finger and stand together to address this major issue. This cannot be fixed overnight but if we don’t act now, can you imagine what the future will hold for our kids. The numbers are increasing year, after year, after year.

 

Happy Fathers Day to all the Fathers out there

Happy Fathers Day to all the Fathers. It is our special day this year in which we are recognized for what we do for our families. I am very proud of my role as a father and deeply appreciate the thanks my girls have shown for this special day. My kids are 5 and 2 years old. They are so excited to celebrate their dad on this special day. My daughter has almost slipped several times in telling me what things their mother has planned for me. My hope is that I can continue to fulfill my role as a father and more importantly as a dad for many years to come.

I can remember the 1st father’s day for me. It was very special because before that time, father’s day was just another day to me except for my grandfather who is currently 86 years of age.

I realized through the creation of Reunite Fatherhood Families, Inc. that I had some issues that I needed to reconcile. If your father is alive, make that sacrifice and contact him today. I know I have not always done so in the past due to my own issues, but it is important to bring yourself to a level of forgiveness in your heart. Without forgiveness, you have a huge burden on your heart that you carry around for the rest of your life. You cannot live life to the fullest with the burden of not forgiving the situations of your past.

With over 24 million kids without their dad in their households tonight, I know that there are many families that feel like it is just another day. If you are a father and you are estranged from your kids, find it in your heart to pick up that telephone and reach out to your kids. There is a lot of hurt that is out there that few discuss when it comes to the absent father.

 

The Biggest Reason Why Men Repeat the Cycle

You really hit the nail on the head. I can definitely relate to your feelings. As a man, I wanted a son but I knew that I was going to be satisfied with 2 kids regardless of the sex of the child. I now understand why God blessed me with 2 beautiful daughters. I was not ready because of the issue you mentioned.

I have had the opportunity to mentor family members that were younger than me but I never understood why I never felt comfortable with doing it until I started learning more about fatherhood. Now I understand why and as I see, I am not alone.

Thank God I decided as a youngster to be a great dad. It is my most challenging and most rewarding job in life and I would not have it any other way. We do not have to repeat the cycle! There is a lot of hurt and lack of education that I am glad to be involved in this cause. Keep up the good work.

Originally posted as a comment; by rffdads on God’s Politics using Disqus


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